Saturday, 22 January 2022

Building Allyship among Women


Women in the workplace have always been a topic of discussion. Even though the number of women in the workplace has substantially increased in the last decade, women still are underrepresented in office. In rural areas, most women are employed in manual works and often have disguised employment. To encourage women to become self-independent, the formation of Self Help Groups is an important step. If we observe closely, the Self Help Group’s core is “building allyship” among them. In layman's terms “Allyship” can simply be defined as people supporting each other to help each other succeed. Here Allyship is Rural Women Supporting Other Rural Women to empower each other. The Government of Uttar Pradesh started the Mission Shakti to make women Self Reliant, Self Secure, and for their Self-respect ( Nari Svavlambhan ,Nari Surakska, and Nari Samman). One of the Important stakeholders of Women's Empowerment is Mobilising the women of rural areas to become self Independent. The formation of Self Help Groups(SHGs) is a key step to making rural women self-reliant. The Self Help Group women help each other in terms of financial as well as emotional support. The Self Group consists of ten-twenty members with one woman as secretary and one as chairperson. They also keep track of financial records to manage the group savings and expenditure.

The formation of Self Help Group starts with a group of women who have already become self-reliant, to come and teach the rural women mechanism to become self-independent. Their area of interest is further pursued so that they can use the hobby as means of becoming an entrepreneur. The area of interest can range from a variety of tasks including but not limited to making masks, making papad achar, making bangles to designing clothes, or broom making. When I was posted in Lucknow, during my stint as BDO( Block Development Officer), I met many SHG women who were doing very well in their respective businesses. One woman was exemplary in jute handicrafts. She has crafted beautiful bags of jute. When I first interacted with her, she was training other women on the same. Another woman I met was very good at chikankraft embroidery. She told me details on how the work happens. I also happen to meet a group of women who were working with her on the same. There was lots of enthusiasm for these women regarding learning and doing something on their own.

When I was transferred to my next assignment, I enquired from my jurisdiction BDO regarding SHG here. The SHG here was very contrast to what it was in Lucknow. I feel SHG offers a proper platform to women who are interested in starting their own business. Here the SHGs were interested more in getting contracts of cleaning Community toilets than doing entrepreneurship. I did try to instill interest in the team( who works for SHG) to encourage these women to do something. This is one aspect of my work on which I would like to work more in the future. In bringing, more and more rural women to become financially independent. I explored more about the area where I was posted and read that once upon a time it was the hub of the bangle-making industry, Now the skill is dying a slow death. I requested the concerned officials to work on the same.

The allyship among women will only work in terms of SHG when the women learn to lift each other. They must be able to share their experience, good or bad with their group. Too often it happens due to fear of being criticized and being judged, they fear not to speak. If a women wish to become an “Ally” of others, the most important principle is to “listen attentively”. To listen doesn’t always mean to offer a solution or to respond but simply to understand what the person is trying to convey. Too often we end up judging others, making the commuter feel guilty about sharing the aspect. It is not necessary to agree on every point. A good allyship is all about healthy discussion. Trying to understand what the person is conveying and expressing one's viewpoint wherever essential. Disagreements are also crucial in one's growth as a person.

It is often seen in rural set up that women’s careers are not decided by them but by men surrounding them. Women need to take ownership of their careers. To take ownership of their career, means, they need to express themselves more. Of course, it is always a good idea to listen to other people’s suggestions but the decision should be entirely one’s own. The independence can truly come when they learn the art of "mental freedom". All the women need to actively participate and help each other in making them comfortable to express their thought. It is not always necessary that one's thoughts be correct. It is okay to make mistakes. Learning from the previous mistaken and aiding it in one's growth is the expected outcome.

Building Allyship among women workers is an essential step in making women's workforce more comfortable at the workplace. Allyship doesn't differentiate based on vertical organization structure. Allyship is a unifying factor making women at the workplace closer to each other. Allyship is also determinantal in bringing equality at the workplace. Maybe there is a need for having a monthly meeting of all women in the workforce in a setup so that there is a greater platform for discussion and sharing. The concept needs to be expanded and explored in all setup of government organizations as well. Starting from government offices to government-built SHGs.




Thursday, 13 January 2022

My Fight with Covid19

After successfully playing hide and seek with covid19 for two years. It finally caught hold of me in January 2022. My First 3 days of January 2022, literally went from "Happy New Year 2022" to "I am feeling weird pain in my body"!! The first two waves did take a toll on mental health. The side effects of Corona are long terms. I have seen it in some close members of my family. Many people have come out of the struggle with no strings attached yet I know many who have got long-term scars due to the disease. The delta variant, the omicron variant, and the flu, all three are spread out. I had fear of the virus because I feared how badly can it further affect my hearing. It is no secret that I struggle to understand what people speak in the mask. My reliance on lip-reading in conversation is important for communication. I was scared that what if after getting the virus, whatever hearing I have is also gone. This fear came because someone has told me that the virus activates the deficiencies/disease present in the body and worsens it. 


The hearing aids technology has improved a lot. There are smart hearing aids. Hearing aids are now being connected to the laptop, phones, and every other technological device to hear better in telephonic conversations, to hear better in video calls, etc but the face-to-face conversations are always different. I know that I cannot converse like other non-deficient persons. I know that even my body language in terms of conversation is different from any non-hearing-impaired person. I always tend to avoid meeting too many people and to keep the conversation to the point. It is not a struggle, it is a simple acceptance of who I am. Every time I contract any sickness, fever, or cold, my hearing gets impacted. I started to hear less than what I normally do. When I got sick, I first thought it is normal flu and it will go away on its own. On day 1, I had fever and severe body ache. The kind of body ache which I had never experienced earlier. I don't like taking medicine for every minor discomfort, I am of the feeling that the more medicine you take, the more your body becomes accustomed to it. As soon as I got sick, my husband rushed to the doctor to get medicines, I was firm about not taking them as I thought fever will go on its own. He said take one dose, if it doesn't help then don't continue it. After taking the dose, I did feel relieved from fever and body ache but I could also feel that it hasn't gone. The fever and body ache has just got suppressed due to the medicines. It was a different feeling altogether.


For the next three days, I kept feeling weak. The moment of dizziness and confusion was there. I meant something else and would say something else. My voice became heavy. On day three, I felt like, despite the medicines, my body temperature is increasing. I thought maybe I should get the covid test done. Consulted my physician and he said to go for it. I was also getting weird dreams every night. Since I moved to a new district in July, I get one dream of screams in my ear. The scream dream is analogous to some firecracker bursting near my ear or something related to that. My jaws were also feeling very stiff. My hearing had deteriorated. I was frequently asking "what", " repeat ". I realized more I think about it, the more I will feel such sensation. I was in disbelief that I am COVID Positive. During wave one and wave two, there were the time when everyone around me was covid positive except me. Here, I hardly met anyone. I was wearing mask, I was washing hands and sanitizing hands frequently, yet I got covid positive. But, I guess, sooner or later the disease would have got hold of me.


I spent my day 1 in watching Netflix and I got new symptoms of eye twitch and eye bookers. I realized it may be due to spending too much time watching the series. Then I decided to spend my time reading books. Earlier, I was fond of Nancy Drew books then it changed to Sidney Sheldon books, then my Genre changed to reading romance books. Again I started reading murder mystery then spiritual books. Currently, I enjoy reading self-help groups. I decided to resume the two books which I was reading "The Saint, the Surfer, and the CEO" by Robin Sharma and "The Magic Mindset: How to Find Your Happy Place " by Preeti Shenoy. Both the books are good to read. and motivating. While The Saint, Surfer, and the CEO give many important life lessons on listening to what you desire. The Magic Mindset is more about how to look at any situation in a different way and how to get over any adverse aspect of life. Life is always like a Pendulum. Going through highs and lows and then ultimately coming back to normal days. 


I realized being positive and looking at things with optimistic outcomes, does affect things. It gives strength to fight the disease with zeal. Though I am yet to fully recover from the disease. The weakness, dizziness are yet to end but I am sure the bad days are over and the coming days would get better.